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Remember like EN1GMA and thomasleep
People are not only alone at Christmas and not only old people are alone so why not see in your neighbourhood if there is someone who is lonely and befriend them to show there is someone who cares.
BUT only do it if you can afford time. Some one who is lonely will need time to go over their experience or in time of need will knock on your door at 3am.
(trying to be as quick as possible) I had such an 89yr old neighbour who before we moved to the area had no relatives or no one in the neighbour who wanted to know him, i.e. had siblings but no children of his own. As soon as we moved in not knowing the above issue I starting saying hello. He only got the confidence to talk to me. One night he did knock on my door at 3am. He just came in and was in a state of panic. When you don't have anyone you will go like a zombie(sorry that's the only word I could use to describe the state he was in) some one would say he is mental but all he needed was some on to talk to. He had a dog who he adored. When this dog died he got another one exactly the same breed colour, he could tell the difference but I couldn't. He needed someone with him to talk to even if it was a dog. He had a old 60's car which he kept until it no longer could pass the MOT and he couldn't afford the off street parking. The reason he was attached to the car was because his mum liked it, it was the car they used to travel in. The car kept him going. He didn't want to go to or join any day centre or even church as he didn't have the confidence to go in public place to spend the day. He died some 20yrs but in vain. WHY I ask.
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Strictly for the lonely elderly only!!!
I saw the poster on the window yesterday.
Cafe 104 are providing full 3 course Christmas meals for those who will be left alone.
I didn't know it but they have been doing this for a few years.
I don't know if it is for locals only but guess so.
If you know someone who is going to left alone on the day and could benefit let them know...
Googled and found the article on the link
"
Shep Hanger and her husband Richie are planning a huge celebration at Cafe 104 on Christmas day including a traditional three course dinner, a raffle, and a performance from local guitarist, James Healey.
They are hoping it will be a place for senior citizens to celebrate Christmas surrounded by friendly faces.
“People don’t realise that there are so many elderly people who spend Christmas alone,” said Shep, who owns the cafe, in Tanners Lane, with her brother, Tom Aygul.
Having already hosted Christmas at Café 104 back in 2013, Shep was once again inspired by her elderly customers.
She said: “It’s nice to do something for the community. I speak to lots of elderly customers when I’m working, and they don’t always have anyone to celebrate with.”
Shep and Ritchie will be catering for 48 guests and have recruited their close friends and family to help with the celebrations.
“I want to do it like a big party. It will be a luxury day where everyone can have fun and listen to music.” said Shep.
The café will be open on Christmas Day from 12pm until 4pm. To book your free place contact Shep on: 020 8550 9563
"
Bonus also is the cab office next door has offered to provide free pick up drop off for those who need it. This is not in the article but the staff said this news.
I commend the couple who are giving back to the community who have supported them.
Top comments
aliw1974
23 Dec 155#7
Even the ones that do not celebrate Christmas realize how much it means to others - Selfless ! just love this !
EN1GMA
23 Dec 154#15
I actually think its one of the worst things ive seen, elderly people, who have family, are left alone over this time, or any other time tbh. Maybe its cultural I don't know. Im Asian and family is a big thing for us. even when everyone grows up, family get together's are a regular feature. I could never imagine leaving my parents alone like that. Don't mean to start a debate but I find it pretty sad.
oldskooltattoosuk
23 Dec 153#20
Now that's what Christmas is all about!! Shame our useless Government don't help the elderly more instead of lining their own greedy pockets and other countries!!!
dalipsinghno1 to EN1GMA
23 Dec 153#19
I commend you for looking after your parents and they know they will never be alone. I did the same.
But in this MATERIAL world I am sad to say it is not an Asian cultural thing any more either and I know of some and I am sure you know of some one who is not looking after their parents moved away because of an pathetic excuse I got my job there, it's my career. It was you brought us to this world and it was your duty to look after us now we can flee. RUBBISH.
I know of a Asian friend (Surgeon) who was bought up by a single mother(dad was killed in a accident when he was mere child) who made sure her son had all to study for his Med qualification, well he moved away saying, I need to be near my work place.... Mum is left without seeing her grandchildren and is now dependant on Dial a Ride, while he has big mansion, cars etc. He could at the very least afford a private comfortable cab, but mum declined all his worldly goods.... I don't see him now, we have no connection.
On the other side I know of some English family who brought their children up, and they are living next to each other so that the grandparent can have a chance to see their grand children grow up. The joy I see in their eyes is just out of this world.
I could go on... I had a long essay written but thought will spare it...
Latest comments (27)
gcsom
25 Dec 151#27
Well done.
EN1GMA
23 Dec 154#15
I actually think its one of the worst things ive seen, elderly people, who have family, are left alone over this time, or any other time tbh. Maybe its cultural I don't know. Im Asian and family is a big thing for us. even when everyone grows up, family get together's are a regular feature. I could never imagine leaving my parents alone like that. Don't mean to start a debate but I find it pretty sad.
dalipsinghno1 to EN1GMA
23 Dec 153#19
I commend you for looking after your parents and they know they will never be alone. I did the same.
But in this MATERIAL world I am sad to say it is not an Asian cultural thing any more either and I know of some and I am sure you know of some one who is not looking after their parents moved away because of an pathetic excuse I got my job there, it's my career. It was you brought us to this world and it was your duty to look after us now we can flee. RUBBISH.
I know of a Asian friend (Surgeon) who was bought up by a single mother(dad was killed in a accident when he was mere child) who made sure her son had all to study for his Med qualification, well he moved away saying, I need to be near my work place.... Mum is left without seeing her grandchildren and is now dependant on Dial a Ride, while he has big mansion, cars etc. He could at the very least afford a private comfortable cab, but mum declined all his worldly goods.... I don't see him now, we have no connection.
On the other side I know of some English family who brought their children up, and they are living next to each other so that the grandparent can have a chance to see their grand children grow up. The joy I see in their eyes is just out of this world.
I could go on... I had a long essay written but thought will spare it...
MR GUS to EN1GMA
24 Dec 151#26
Nope, I understand it & you are right, people don't think to make 1 more space at "the table of excess" for someone elderly ..it's a shame, personally I don't do xmas whatsoever, I had a crud childhood & simply have to block it all out, which as it is everywhere is an impossibility, however the more I distance myself the better I feel.
The nearest I came to festivities this year was donating some childrens entertainment to go with their dinner at a local place putting on xmas dinner for parents & children in dire straits. ..its as far as I can bear go, but if it is so awful then folks, drop the pretence & just don't partake, too much stress & artificial "bolt ons" to the actual duration of "celebration" by proper trad standards. Christmas is in essence 2 days why make it an elongated form of purgatory through to new year? ..drop all the xmas hoops you are expected to jump through & stick it the finger! ...& feel better for it.
christmas should be on your terms, if it is that awful, (& boy do people moan about it) then re-evaluate as to whether you need it in your life & do without / tone it down, easier than you think.
loopylloyd
24 Dec 151#25
Excellent. Respect to these people, not everyone has someone to speak to at Christmas.
dalipsinghno1
23 Dec 15#24
Well I don't know it only came last night.... I will update you on Sat.
thomasleep
23 Dec 151#23
and did anything change? well I can confirm the answer to that is no
Emily55
23 Dec 151#22
Absolutely wonderful. The news is so negative lately that it's lovely to hear something positive. Well done to these people!
thomasleep
23 Dec 153#17
its not just the elderly who can be lonely, what a great country it is where you have to be over 65 before anyone cares if you spend weeks in isolation!
dalipsinghno1 to thomasleep
23 Dec 15#18
This was covered in the ITV Tonight program. Think about all ages.
blabbity to thomasleep
23 Dec 151#21
Yep, the disabled are always left out in the cold with support like this. At least people think of the elderly, but the disabled, who are at least in the same situation as the elderly, if not worse, are always just not mentioned and presumably not thought about. I dread to think about some of the situations some disabled people will be in over Christmas after years of deliberate alienation, neglect and poverty, yet the elderly, who in comparison are slightly better off, are the ones who get offers of help with this and that, and a grant to help keep them warm at this time of year. Disabled people will not only be trapped at home, isolated, but also likely shivering.
If only everything aimed at the elderly just included disabled people as well. If only when people thought about the plight of the elderly or ways they could help them, they simply added on "and the disabled".
oldskooltattoosuk
23 Dec 153#20
Now that's what Christmas is all about!! Shame our useless Government don't help the elderly more instead of lining their own greedy pockets and other countries!!!
matthewroyal5555
23 Dec 151#16
Excellent gesture
aliw1974
23 Dec 155#7
Even the ones that do not celebrate Christmas realize how much it means to others - Selfless ! just love this !
dalipsinghno1 to aliw1974
23 Dec 15#14
Thanks
You are so right, for some reason non believers and non Christians come out with a spirit feel something to go out and help.....
dalipsinghno1
23 Dec 15#13
thanks..
ironically last night I saw an ITV Tonight program Lonely this Christmas, the very reason we need this. One lady said I hope some carer turns up on the day.... We are always neglecting our elders who helped built this world. We are not doing any favours knowing fully well we might one day be in the same situation one day.
I am pretty sure there are good samaritans around the country who are doing the same... it's just they don't get advertised...
Badhumour
23 Dec 153#12
Great gesture. We need more kindness in this world. Well done!
Kaos_KS
23 Dec 153#11
Wow. What a fantastic gesture. Wonderful people for doing this. It will mean so much to those who attend to know that people still care at Christmas.
I wonder if other places are doing this to make it nationwide.
Merry Christmas to you.
weetchie
23 Dec 151#10
What a fab thing to do , hope more places take note and do the same
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Opening post
Remember like EN1GMA and thomasleep
People are not only alone at Christmas and not only old people are alone so why not see in your neighbourhood if there is someone who is lonely and befriend them to show there is someone who cares.
BUT only do it if you can afford time. Some one who is lonely will need time to go over their experience or in time of need will knock on your door at 3am.
(trying to be as quick as possible) I had such an 89yr old neighbour who before we moved to the area had no relatives or no one in the neighbour who wanted to know him, i.e. had siblings but no children of his own. As soon as we moved in not knowing the above issue I starting saying hello. He only got the confidence to talk to me. One night he did knock on my door at 3am. He just came in and was in a state of panic. When you don't have anyone you will go like a zombie(sorry that's the only word I could use to describe the state he was in) some one would say he is mental but all he needed was some on to talk to. He had a dog who he adored. When this dog died he got another one exactly the same breed colour, he could tell the difference but I couldn't. He needed someone with him to talk to even if it was a dog. He had a old 60's car which he kept until it no longer could pass the MOT and he couldn't afford the off street parking. The reason he was attached to the car was because his mum liked it, it was the car they used to travel in. The car kept him going. He didn't want to go to or join any day centre or even church as he didn't have the confidence to go in public place to spend the day. He died some 20yrs but in vain. WHY I ask.
***************************************************************************************
Strictly for the lonely elderly only!!!
I saw the poster on the window yesterday.
Cafe 104 are providing full 3 course Christmas meals for those who will be left alone.
I didn't know it but they have been doing this for a few years.
I don't know if it is for locals only but guess so.
If you know someone who is going to left alone on the day and could benefit let them know...
Address: 104 Tanners Lane | Barkingside, Ilford, IG6 1QE
Cuisine: European, Turkish
Tel. 020 8550 9563
Googled and found the article on the link
"
Shep Hanger and her husband Richie are planning a huge celebration at Cafe 104 on Christmas day including a traditional three course dinner, a raffle, and a performance from local guitarist, James Healey.
They are hoping it will be a place for senior citizens to celebrate Christmas surrounded by friendly faces.
“People don’t realise that there are so many elderly people who spend Christmas alone,” said Shep, who owns the cafe, in Tanners Lane, with her brother, Tom Aygul.
Having already hosted Christmas at Café 104 back in 2013, Shep was once again inspired by her elderly customers.
She said: “It’s nice to do something for the community. I speak to lots of elderly customers when I’m working, and they don’t always have anyone to celebrate with.”
Shep and Ritchie will be catering for 48 guests and have recruited their close friends and family to help with the celebrations.
“I want to do it like a big party. It will be a luxury day where everyone can have fun and listen to music.” said Shep.
The café will be open on Christmas Day from 12pm until 4pm. To book your free place contact Shep on: 020 8550 9563
"
Bonus also is the cab office next door has offered to provide free pick up drop off for those who need it. This is not in the article but the staff said this news.
I commend the couple who are giving back to the community who have supported them.
Top comments
But in this MATERIAL world I am sad to say it is not an Asian cultural thing any more either and I know of some and I am sure you know of some one who is not looking after their parents moved away because of an pathetic excuse I got my job there, it's my career. It was you brought us to this world and it was your duty to look after us now we can flee. RUBBISH.
I know of a Asian friend (Surgeon) who was bought up by a single mother(dad was killed in a accident when he was mere child) who made sure her son had all to study for his Med qualification, well he moved away saying, I need to be near my work place.... Mum is left without seeing her grandchildren and is now dependant on Dial a Ride, while he has big mansion, cars etc. He could at the very least afford a private comfortable cab, but mum declined all his worldly goods.... I don't see him now, we have no connection.
On the other side I know of some English family who brought their children up, and they are living next to each other so that the grandparent can have a chance to see their grand children grow up. The joy I see in their eyes is just out of this world.
I could go on... I had a long essay written but thought will spare it...
Latest comments (27)
But in this MATERIAL world I am sad to say it is not an Asian cultural thing any more either and I know of some and I am sure you know of some one who is not looking after their parents moved away because of an pathetic excuse I got my job there, it's my career. It was you brought us to this world and it was your duty to look after us now we can flee. RUBBISH.
I know of a Asian friend (Surgeon) who was bought up by a single mother(dad was killed in a accident when he was mere child) who made sure her son had all to study for his Med qualification, well he moved away saying, I need to be near my work place.... Mum is left without seeing her grandchildren and is now dependant on Dial a Ride, while he has big mansion, cars etc. He could at the very least afford a private comfortable cab, but mum declined all his worldly goods.... I don't see him now, we have no connection.
On the other side I know of some English family who brought their children up, and they are living next to each other so that the grandparent can have a chance to see their grand children grow up. The joy I see in their eyes is just out of this world.
I could go on... I had a long essay written but thought will spare it...
The nearest I came to festivities this year was donating some childrens entertainment to go with their dinner at a local place putting on xmas dinner for parents & children in dire straits. ..its as far as I can bear go, but if it is so awful then folks, drop the pretence & just don't partake, too much stress & artificial "bolt ons" to the actual duration of "celebration" by proper trad standards. Christmas is in essence 2 days why make it an elongated form of purgatory through to new year? ..drop all the xmas hoops you are expected to jump through & stick it the finger! ...& feel better for it.
christmas should be on your terms, if it is that awful, (& boy do people moan about it) then re-evaluate as to whether you need it in your life & do without / tone it down, easier than you think.
If only everything aimed at the elderly just included disabled people as well. If only when people thought about the plight of the elderly or ways they could help them, they simply added on "and the disabled".
You are so right, for some reason non believers and non Christians come out with a spirit feel something to go out and help.....
ironically last night I saw an ITV Tonight program Lonely this Christmas, the very reason we need this. One lady said I hope some carer turns up on the day.... We are always neglecting our elders who helped built this world. We are not doing any favours knowing fully well we might one day be in the same situation one day.
I am pretty sure there are good samaritans around the country who are doing the same... it's just they don't get advertised...
I wonder if other places are doing this to make it nationwide.
Merry Christmas to you.
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